After your faith, your marriage is the most important thing you will have in your life. There’re so many other important responsibilities in your life. Like children, your job, relationships with your friends and family and chores. But the most important is your relationship with your spouse.
So often we put our children and their needs first. Their extracurricular activities, their joy and happiness and although that’s very important, your first responsibility isn’t to your children but it’s to your spouse.
It’s so important to your children that they see the love, respect and care that goes into a marriage. And it needs a lot of it. It’s important not to correct your spouse in front of the children (or anyone for that matter). They need to know that you are a team. They are a part of that team but mom and dad’s loyalty reigns with one another.
What will you do when the children are grown and come to find out you spent so much time focused on the children that you don’t even know your spouse. That you didn’t take time to go through the growing and changing together and now there’s no children to make you feel the need to work things out or to continue to grow.
Marriage isn’t 50/50 it takes 100% effort from you both to make a marriage happy and successful. It takes giving way more than you take. It takes sitting aside your pride and having to be right and just letting the other “win” sometimes. Letting them have their time. Sometimes I have my days where I’m having a bad day or I’m moody and my husband just helps more with the kids or he lets me have my time to be moody that day without making things worse by arguing but I just never disrespect him. And there’s times when that role is reversed.
In a marriage there’s a responsibility for each of you. No responsibility is more important than the other. No person is more important than the other but I am a strong believer that the husband is the head of the household. He makes all the final decisions in our home but he always talks things over with me and takes my input and if he doesn’t feel strongly one way or the other, he goes with my opinion or thoughts. Some people don’t like that old-fashioned way of living but as I stated each person in a marriage is equally as important as the other. I feel he can be the head of our home so I can be the heart. You need both. Both roles are necessary.
Just remember your children watch everything you do. Not just what you say but how you live your life. Be their example of a marriage. Be their example of a good person. Be reliable. Be loving. And be respectful. Showing them love for others, especially your spouse, shows them love for themselves. It shows them how someone should treat them. No marriage is perfect and no marriage will ever be but making your marriage your main focus is certainly a start.
Excitement surrounding the Camellia Antiques & Interiors Show is hard to contain! Presented by Montgomery Antiques & Interiors, LLC, the inaugural show will debut March 13, 2020, and will host select antique dealers, interior designers, and home interior furnishing merchants from across Alabama and the Southeast.
The speaker series will be an opportunity to enhance your knowledge about design trends and tips as well as the role of antiques in history and today’s designs.
I chose Wetumpka first because it’s one of my favorite places in Alabama. It is the neighboring town to mine. So much history, beautiful communities, perseverance after tragedy and great shops and food.
Everyone has driven through Wetumpka at one time or another if you’ve travelled through Alabama.
Recently, they have updated downtown and that includes the streets.
Many people that I have spoken with have all agreed that it wouldn’t be possible without the hard work of many in the area but especially the help of Jenny Stubbs. Jenny is the Executive Director of Main Street Wetumpka. According to their website “Main Street Wetumpka is an independent, nonprofit organization, Main Street’s mission is to revitalize its once-bustling downtown business district.”
It’s absolutely beautiful! You can find a live video of downtown here.
Bibb Graves Bridge in Wetumpka
While visiting the historical downtown, be sure to take a walk over the beautiful historical Bibb Graves Bridge.
As wives and moms it is so difficult taking time for yourself. When I wake up I am getting the husband off to work, the kids ready and off to school and then myself ready for work. I’m usually exhausted before I even leave home.
At work I am non-stop and attempting to be the best employee possible. Then it’s home to cook, clean and in soccer season there’s practice and games 3-4 days per week.
It’s hard to find time for yourself. Hard but necessary.
I take at least one hour before bed and I just peacefully catch up on my shows or take a nice comfortable bubble bath. I also take one hour per week to care for myself. I get a massage, get my nails done or hair. It’s this time I need to recharge. I cut all social media connections and I even cut my ringer off.
Before I started doing these things I was overwhelmed and over exhausted. I love caring for my family. I always have but in this time alone it’s not just for my health but also my children. If I am a healthy me. They are happier and healthier.
Mom decides how everyones day will go. If I am rushing and in a bad mood that sets the day in motion for everyone else. That’s just not what I want for my husband or my babies.
Take the time for yourself and DON’T feel bad about it! A healthier happier you means a healthier and happier family. Every woman deserves to be pampered. Go do it! Set that time aside and enjoy it. Even if it’s you going to a movie alone.
You take such great care of your family. Take care of you!
Chicken: Whole, legs, breast.. Whatever Chicken of your choice. I like getting an already cooked rotisserie chicken from Sams or Walmart.
Add 10 cups of water to pot. Add chopped celery and carrots. Add onions if you like them.
Chop the chicken and cook until done or add already cooked chicken, chopped. NO BONES!
Season water with Mrs. Dash and salt and pepper. Add 2 Cups of Coffeemate coffee creamer. Use whisk to smooth it out. NO CLUMPS! Then add your packaged tortellini to ingredients and cook until done.
To thicken. Take a half a cup of cold water and mix in 1/4 cup of corn starch. Mix vigorously then add to pot. Stir and cut off your stove. Let the ingredients sit in the pan to bring the flavors together for 20 minutes. ENJOY!
I’ve been working full time for one year now. Oddly it’s been the fastest year of my life. As much as I love most aspects of my life I have found it impossible to keep up with everything lately.
Just when I feel like it can’t get any harder my kids are sick.
As a mom I look around and feel so blessed. I have an amazing husband and healthy girls. I have an amazing job but the hardest thing I’ve ever done is being a working mom.
It starts first thing in the morning with trying to get my husband off to work then taking 10 minutes for myself to drink my coffee before the kids wake up. Then it’s getting them ready, lunchboxes, making sure nothing needs to be signed or taken care of before school. Then when they’re finally on the bus I have to get myself ready and make sure everything’s clean and together for practice or games that I will need to rush home to get them to after a full day of work. And then after practice it’s dinner, baths and bedtime.
Weekends again are spent at games, church or birthday parties. Then do it again on Monday.
Dads you are hardworking and great dads I won’t take that from you but if you’re like my household when he comes home his day is done. In the mornings he only has to get himself ready. Oh how that would be great.
I know someday I will miss the chaos and the ball games and I don’t look forward to that day…..okay maybe a little, but exhaustion is at an all time high at the moment.
I appreciate every single moment. But sometimes it’s okay to say it’s freaking hard being a mom. Rewarding but hard.
Not only are we physically caring for them but we are trying our best to raise good humans. God fearing, kind, giving humans.
When you’re a working mom you feel like you can’t give everything to one place. While I’m home I think about the things I need to do at work so that takes from my family emotionally and physically and like today I took the day off for my sick kiddo. So now I feel like the worst employee ever. But my family takes priority. Then, when I’m at work I am thinking about things that need to be done when I get home or later that night. So all in all I feel like I’m not a good enough anything. I’m not a good enough employee, wife or mom.
I can’t imagine life without my family or my work and I hope to never have to but I’ve come to the conclusion that one person can only do or be so much. My devotion after Christ is to my responsibilities as a wife, mom, friend and employee. I think it’s okay not to be a superstar at everything ALL of the time. It’s okay to just try your hardest at everything you do and if for that day you decide not to be the perfect mom or employee that’s okay. As long as it doesn’t become a habitual thing.
Your sanity and your health are too important for that much stress. Stress no one but YOU puts on yourself.
Go home get in bed at 6 p.m. and tell those kids or daddy I am taking one day… or two days this week and no one is to bother me. Don’t ask me for anything. Act as if I am not here. You put the kids to bed dad and I am going to Netflix and popcorn for the night. They need to know your time for yourself is important. Time to recharge.
It’s for YOU but it’s so that you can be the best YOU for THEM!